July 6, 2019

Stop for a moment…

What are you thinking?

Are you aware of all the thoughts racing through your head?

Are you … worried? … confused? … afraid?… Stuck on a painful past event? … Fretting about the future? … Thinking about the dumb things you’ve done? Convinced you’ll never get it right?


Negative thoughts ruin your life: your relationships, your career, your finances, your health… Everything!

Experts say we have 60,000 – 80,000 thoughts in one day. That means 2,500 – 3,330 thoughts every hour. We may not have a choice about what pops into our head, but we do have a choice in what we focus on.

Throughout the years I’ve spent many hours, days and months thinking about where I’ve been, what I’ve done, where I’m going, people in my life; what I like and don’t like about my life, career, financial situation and much more. I’ve endeavoured to focus on the good, but life has not always been good, which then consumed my thinking … much to my detriment… leading me to unhappiness, sadness, depression, isolation and inactivity. I’d put blame on others for my situation instead of taking responsibility for myself. Ultimately, it led to an unfulfilled life.

I wanted a better life for myself and those I loved. But, for this to occur I needed to change my thinking patterns.

I began by becoming aware of what I was thinking and diligently replacing and reframing the negative, pessimistic thoughts with positive thoughts and plenty of gratitude. In doing so, my life improved. My sense of happiness, my ability to concentrate, remember and be productive were all enhanced. I was more creative, solved problems faster and was more alert… and I became more fun to be around!

We are exactly who we think we are. We become what we focus on. Our thoughts form our character, how we operate in the world, how far we travel along the road of possibilities and our potential. Our inner thoughts become our outer circumstances.

Behavioral scientists have observed differences between people who are optimistic, positive thinkers and those who are pessimistic, negative thinkers. Optimistic people have better moods, are more persevering and successful, and experience better physical health. Pessimists are destined to suffer, while optimists:

  • Lead happy, rich, fulfilled lives
  • Spend less time alone, and more time socializing
  • Have good relationships
  • Have better health habits
  • Have stronger immune systems
  • Live longer

What you think matters! It affects you!

You can retrain yourself to think positive and optimistically. Neuroscience has proven you can change your neuropathways.

Start by thinking happy thoughts, looking on the bright side, and refocusing on wholesome, praiseworthy thoughts as soon as negative thoughts occur. It worked for me … it will work for you. Be diligent and on guard. Police your thoughts. Remember what you think impacts what happens in your life. Use your thoughts to your advantage by reframing events and situations and thinking positively.

You need to think about the best in life, not the worst; what is beautiful, not ugly; about things to praise not things to curse!

Wishing you an outstanding day!

Betty Franklin is a Mental Fitness & Wellbeing Expert. She works with organizations who want to fast forward staff wellness and mental fitness in order to maximize employee engagement and build a stronger commitment to team performance. She’s a high-content speaker who is motivational/inspirational in style and tone delivering thought-provoking workshops/presentations, as well as transformational coaching programs. Learn more. Contact Betty at http://bettyfranklin.com/contact/

About the author 


I’m a Canadian, gluten-free, tai chi loving, great-grandmother. I live in Ontario and love helping people get healthy again.   I use all the experience I have gained in the almost 5 decades to help you live a life full of vitality with great clarity and focus.

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