November 2, 2010

3 More Ways to Quiet Negative Self-Talk

In my last blog post “How to quiet your negative self talk” , I  shared three techniques to quiet the “little voice” inside. Since we are all different and we also change daily, some of those techniques may not have resonated.  So here are three more for you to consider if under stress and your “little voice” is out of control.

These 3 may come in handy if you have the following thoughts, “I should have … I could have … or I wish I would have.   I don’t want to make any mistakes.  I’m not good enough.  And many more.

These techniques don’t require any medications, psychologists, psychiatrists or therapists.  I learned these from “Little Voice Mastery” by Blair Singer and they work for me.  Try them! See if they will work for you.

Should, Would and Could Have Technique

When we are not happy with an outcome, our little voice goes crazy with the “should, would and could haves”. In this technique, you are going to make a list of all those voices. Let loose and see how many you can write down.  Then look at the list and interestingly, when you go over this list, at some point you will start to see the humour in these points. You can even start to play with them and make them really off the wall. This lightens up your energy and stops the little voice especially pertaining to the aspect of guilt.

Celebrating Mistakes

This one is going to reprogram your brain. Similar to celebrating wins (in the last blog post), except you are going to do this one with both arms and shoot them up into the air and yell, “Yeah”!  So, every time you make a mistake, you are going to celebrate.

If you begin this new action, then you are telling your brain, it’s OK to take risks.  It also means that you will celebrate everything- your wins and your mistakes.

If you are around other people, you could even do a high five with the other person and celebrate together. My partner and I have this little dance we do to celebrate all the “no’s” we get in our business.

The Anchoring Love Technique

The third technique is to bring back a feeling of a time when you knew that you were totally and unconditionally loved.  My memory of this takes me back to my mother. I was very young and I knew that I was the apple of her eye. I felt the unconditional love coming from her and I felt like I could do anything. It moves me into a more resourceful state when I’m faced with a challenge that takes me out of my comfort zone.

This one brings back a feeling of being totally loved by someone and transferring that feeling into the situation that you find stressful, so you can change your state and become more resourceful.

I trust that you will find these helpful and that in your next stressful situation, you remember that there are some techniques that can bring you back into the present moment and into a state of resourcefulness.  Life is meant to be lived in a state of joy and these techniques can help us get back to a joyful state.

Watch for my next blog where you learn three more techniques that will help you quiet your negative chatter and help you get more out of life.

As always, I love getting your feedback. Here on my blog, you’ll get commenluv. That’s a plugin that allows you to leave a link back to your own site when you leave a comment.

Until next time,


About the author 


I’m a Canadian, gluten-free, tai chi loving, great-grandmother. I live in Ontario and love helping people get healthy again.   I use all the experience I have gained in the almost 5 decades to help you live a life full of vitality with great clarity and focus.

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