Every year we have a ritual of making New Year’s Resolutions. And each year the promises we make to ourselves fall by the wayside. Promises such as losing weight and getting fit, quitting smoking, eating healthier, getting out of debt and saving money, getting more organized, spending more time with family, traveling to new places, learning new things and on and on.
What happens to the resolution? Why is the failure rate over 92%? Why make them if we are just going to break them.
Let’s look at what a resolution is. It really is a resolve or determination to do something. It is a fact which makes it passive, as facts are not action verbs. So really it is more of a wish or a hope in this state or it can be used to reinforce change. What is needed to make it more active? We need an active plan. We need to see the end result and then take action steps to get there. That brings us to goals which are things we work towards. Goals give us attainable milestones that can keep us motivated and in action.
Let’s examine some further reasons why these resolutions don’t materialize.
1) There is insufficient desire on our part. We may make the resolution because it is expected at the beginning of a year and we throw out a desire to see if it will stick. If we are really serious about our resolution it will come from our heart. We will have a feeling attached to the outcome and our desire will be through the roof.
2) There is insufficient belief that it will actually happen. We are so accustomed to looking to the outside for answers and not paying attention to what is happening inside us. So it is easy to believe that something is not going to happen based on something someone said or even our own internal doubting voice.
3) There is insufficient support available for us. We are social beings and also we need outside mirrors to feed back to us how we are doing and encourage us when our resolves falters.
4) There is a disharmony between the thoughts and beliefs that reside in our subconscious mind and that of our conscious mind. We may consciously want to make a change in our lives but unless our subconscious is on board as well, we will experience some sort of sabotage.
If any of these reasons resonated and you are serious about making some changes this year and would like more support, please contact me and we can discuss what your particular needs are in order to create a very successful 2014.
Here’s to your success!
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